Coworkers of Norfolk double murder-suicide victim speak out about warning signs of domestic violence

Domestic Violence Awareness

NORFOLK, Va. (WAVY) — When Lori Bishop first welcomed Lorin Mack to her work team, she never thought she’d be organizing a GoFundMe for Mack’s surviving family just months later.

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Investigators say Mack, 30, was inside her Norfolk home on Sept. 26 with her 10-year-old daughter Ari’anna. That’s when police say Nathan White II, 35, shot both Mack and her daughter before turning the gun on himself.

Officials say the call for the shooting came in around 3:30 a.m. Sunday at a home in the 200 block of West Balview Avenue. When police arrived on the scene, they found the three people suffering from gunshot wounds.

White and Ari’anna both died at the home, but police say Mack fought for several days at Sentara Norfolk General Hospital before she died on Sept. 28.

A police spokesman confirmed White was Mack’s boyfriend. 10 On Your Side is still working to learn what led up to the incident, but investigators are calling it a domestic-related shooting.

“Not having the warning signs, or the opportunity to help, it really has been very difficult,” said Bishop, Mack’s coworker. “I think that was probably the hardest thing to deal with for all of us, including her manager. There just were no signs… none. There was maybe one conversation that eluded to the need to try to get the gentleman that did this some help, but there were no signs.”

Both Bishop and a second coworker, Judy Griffin, worked with Mack for just over a year. During that time, they were able to see into her daily life and even meet Ari’anna.

“Getting a chance to see her beam as her daughter came into the Zoom frame and talk about things that she and her mom like to do together,” explained Bishop. “It was just a really special moment that we really cherish even more now.”

Ari’anna attended Ocean View Elementary School in Norfolk. School officials released a statement to 10 On Your Side about her as a student saying, “We remain extremely saddened by the death of Ari’Anna Mack and her mother. Our thoughts and prayers continue to be with their family and loved ones at this time.”

Coworkers say working remotely keeps you from seeing the obvious signs of potential domestic violence, but there are still areas where red flags can present themselves.

“Really check on your people,” said Griffin. “If you notice maybe something is different about their performance, dig in a little bit. There might be a way to really get to the root of what’s going on, you know? If there’s a shift in behavior or numbers you know, really talk to your folks. Because they’ll feel safe and want to speak with you and potentially let you know what’s going on in their lives.”

Although it won’t bring the mother and daughter back, Mack’s coworkers are hoping the tragedy raises awareness among remote workers to keep a lookout in every work environment to take care of each other.

“Anyone needs to take any level of threat super seriously and to tell people what’s going on with you because your lens is different when you’re in a relationship with someone,” said Bishop.

“There will be a lesson from this. I’m still waiting for it because this was pretty devastating for us as a team, but we know there’s going to be some type of light from this. Because that was just Lorin… and I think this would just be a continuation of her impact… for this to shine a light on some things you don’t always see,” Bishop said.

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10 On Your Side has compiled a list of local and national resources for residents to fight and prevent domestic violence and child abuse.

In the United States, about 1 in 4 women and nearly 1 in 10 men have experienced intimate partner violence (IPV) including sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Domestic Violence Prevention Resources

10 On Your Side is committed to help Break The Cycle of domestic violence in Hampton Roads. 

Here is a link to all of the local groups or agencies we have highlighted. The page also shares testimonials of survivors.

Here are some local and national resources for victims in need of help.

Transitions Family Violence Services in Hampton

YWCA South Hampton Roads in Norfolk

LGBTQ Life Center in Norfolk

  • Provides: Intimate partner abuse counseling and support group, safety planning, crisis intervention and education sessions. Assistance with emergency housing and legal services. Youth services and support groups.
  • 757-640-0929

Military Family Advocacy Program in Norfolk

  • Provides: Prevention of family violence, victim safety/protection, offender accountability, rehabilitative education/counseling, and command intervention
  • 757-444-2230
  • Domestic Abuse Victim Advocate (DAVA)after hours: 757-438-4180

Avalon Center in Williamsburg

  • Phone: 757-258-5022
  • Offers transitional housing, emergency shelter, youth services, legal advice, and counseling.
  • 24-hour Crisis Hotline: 757- 258-5051

Samaritan House Inc. in Virginia Beach

  • Phone: 757-631-0710
  • Offers counseling, emergency shelter placement, and safety planning.
  • 24-hour Crisis Hotline 757-430-2120

HER Shelter in Portsmouth

  • Phone: 757-485-1445
  • Offers emergency services, court assistance, shelter, employment, housing assistance.
  • Hotline: 757-485-3384

Eastern Shore Coalition Against Domestic Violence

  • Hotline number: 757-787-1329
  • Offers: an emergency shelter, 24-hour crisis hotline, individual counseling, safety planning, children’s services, legal advocacy, accompaniment during hospital visits and court appearances and support groups to survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault.
  • Website: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline1−800−799−7233

Virginia Domestic Abuse Hotline1-800-838-8238

About 11 million women and 5 million men who reported experiencing sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime said that they first experienced these forms of violence before the age of 18.

At least 1 in 7 children have experienced child abuse or neglect in the past year and in 2018 nearly 1,770 children died of abuse and neglect in the United States, according to the CDC.

Prevent Child Abuse America – Coronavirus Resources & Tips for Parents, Children & Others.

Child abuse and neglect are serious problems that can have lasting harmful effects on its victims. For more information on preventing child abuse and neglect check out resources from the CDC or call The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 for help.

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